From Wikipedia: “The primary defining characteristic of shyness is a largely ego-driven fear of what other people will think of a person’s behavior, which results in the person becoming scared of doing or saying what he or she wants to, out of fear of negative reactions, criticism, rejection, and simply opting to avoid social situations instead.”
Huh! that’s scary. Pretty much every teenager goes through this stage in their lives. Some get over it, others get sucked in and it becomes a part of their lives forever. The sooner your teenager gets out of this phase the better it is for them.
Here is what you can teach your teenager to overcome their shyness and anxiety.
First of all, be comfortable in your own skin. Realize that you can’t be good at everything, so know your strengths and weaknesses. When you are aware of your abilities you will be better prepared to handle different situations.
Don’t be too serious; learn how to have fun in your life. As a matter of fact, at times it’s okay to make fun of yourself. This way you won’t take others’ opinions about you too seriously.
No one is perfect; each one of us makes mistakes. Failures are part of life. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Instead of regretting them, learn from your mistakes. There is always a positive lesson in every shortfall you encounter.
Best of all, when shyness or anxiety starts creeping up on you, don’t forget to breathe. The first reaction to any uncomfortable situation is that most of us stop breathing properly. We breathe shallow which restricts supply of oxygen to our brains and as a result we freeze.
Always take deep breaths and ground yourself whenever meeting strangers or facing a challenge.
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Faisal Hameed Khattak